After being together for some time, it’s not unusual for couples to find that the flame of attraction has dimmed somewhat.
If you’re feeling like your husband isn’t giving you the attention you need, don’t despair—there are things you can do to win his affection back.
Flirt With Him
One of the best ways to get your husband’s attention is to flirt with him.
Flirting will not only remind him of how attracted he is to you, but it will also make him feel wanted and important.
To effectively flirt with your husband, send him text messages or notes throughout the day, telling him how much you love and appreciate him.
You can also try playful physical contact, like lightly touching his arm or giving him a massage.
EXPERT TIP: “If you aren’t sure how to flirt, talk with your husband about what he likes. Also, share ways you may want to flirt as well. A flirt can be a certain way you look at each other or a way you interact. Think of flirting as both verbal and non-verbal ways to create romance and energy. Together, come up with a few ways to be more playful.” -Angela Skurtu of St. Louis Marriage Therapy, LLC
Make an effort with your appearance.
When was the last time you got a new haircut or tried a different style? If it’s been a while, now might be the time to switch things up a bit.
A new look can do wonders for your confidence—and your husband’s attraction to you.
Of course, you don’t need to go overboard—just a small change can make a big difference.
EXPERT TIP: “With that being said, if you make changes and you feel he doesn’t notice, you can ask him to compliment you when you put effort into your style.” -Angela Skurtu
When was the last time you told your husband how great he looked? If it’s been a while, start complimenting him more often.
Men love to know that their wives find them attractive, so a few genuine compliments can go a long way.
You can also try writing your husband a heartfelt letter, telling him how much you love and appreciate him.
Focus on the positive.
It’s easy to dwell on the negative when you’re feeling neglected, but try to focus on the positive aspects of your relationship instead.
Remember all the things that drew you to your husband in the first place and focus on those. This will help you to stay positive and keep your relationship strong.
Plan some special time together.
With busy schedules, it’s easy for couples to let their relationship take a backseat to work and other commitments.
If you feel like you and your husband are in danger of drifting apart, take proactive steps to spend some quality time together.
Block off a weekend afternoon for a picnic in the park or plan a weekend getaway at a bed and breakfast. Rediscover what drew you together in the first place and rekindle the spark between you.
Be playful with him.
Do you ever feel like all your interactions with your husband are serious? If so, lighten up!
Flirt with him, tell jokes, engage in tickle fights—whatever it takes to inject some fun and playfulness into your relationship.
You may be surprised at how quickly his attitude towards your changes when he sees that you’re not always so uptight.
Show an interest in his hobbies and interests.
To really win your husband’s attention, try taking an active interest in the things he enjoys doing.
Attend his baseball games, go fishing with him on weekends, or join him for weekly poker nights with the guys.
Not only will he appreciate your support, but he’ll also be happy to share his hobbies and interests with you too.
Seek professional help
If you’ve tried everything you can think of and you’re still not seeing any results, it might be time to seek a professional therapist.
A therapist can help you to understand the root of the problem and give you tools to deal with it.
This is a big step, but if you’re feeling hopeless, it might be the best course of action.
It’s normal for couples to go through periods where they don’t feel as connected as they once did.
However, if you’re finding that lack of connection is becoming a regular thing, it might be time to take action.
Use these 7 tips to win your husband’s attention back and reignite the spark between you two!